Once you become a parent, let’s face it… your marriage takes a backseat to get through the first year. You’re both up running around in the middle of the night searching for something to help soothe your little one or walking the halls bouncing, swaying and cuddling the babe back to sleep. Your days are just as hectic with everything from sanitizing to bottle prep time to bath time… needless to say there’s definitely not as much marriage time than before your bundle of joy arrived. And at first you are both in survival mode. You take things you’ve learned from your own parents, grandparents, family and friends. You go off of your instinct, gut feelings and things you’ve read and you PRAY – you pray a ton!
Now that we officially survived the first year of parenthood, we realize more than ever the importance of cultivating and nurturing our marriage.
Here are a few things we do to make sure we are making time to stay connected in our marriage while also making sure we are maximizing our time with our daughter:
Day dates – these have been great for us! Working close by or with your husband definitely has its advantages. It’s been so nice to plan out our days and know when we can take a lunch date together, take a long stroll outside together or just run errands and be with one another – just the two of us. We also get to carpool together and there is a lot to be said while stuck in traffic on I-485.
Nap times – Isla doesn’t always take 2 hour naps, but when she does we make the most of it! We use this time to reconnect, communicate and catch up on what’s going on, plan our day or the next date and listen to music together. Something that has always been a shared interest between my husband and I is our love for music… while we don’t get to go to as many shows as we once did, we still have time together to check out new bands, talk about the music we love and share a new found artist.
Planned date-nights – this one was really hard for me to come to terms with and really due to Isla’s colic and just me being an overprotective momma bear… my husband and I didn’t have a lot of one-on-one time away from our daughter until more recently. I will say though, it is so nice to be able to plan an exciting date for your significant other and surprise him/her…and since we cherish this one-on-one time now more than ever, it makes it that much more exciting!